Thursday, November 01, 2007

Reasons to Appreciate Fall

The Creator made this earth in such a wonderful way. During those days of creation, he saw the need for seasonal changes: “And God said, ‘Let there be lights in the expanse of the heavens to separate the day from the night. And let them be for signs and for seasons, and for days and years….” (Genesis 1:14, ESV). As we look upon the wonders of creation and appreciate nature’s beauty, we can thank God for good things. In addition, the continued renewal of the seasons reminds us that God is alive and well (Psalm 90:2).

As you look over the list below, you may think of other things that you appreciate about fall. Think on those and give thanks to God for your ability to see, hear, touch, smell and taste. “Give thanks to the God of heaven, for his steadfast love endures forever” (Psalm 136:26, ESV).

It’s harvest time.
There are crisp mornings and cool nights.
Hayrides!
The leaves change colors.
Football weather!
The days are shorter.
Thanksgiving Day!
Grass does not have to be mowed.
The kids are in back in school!
It is a forewarning of winter.
We get a break from summer’s heat.
You can smell the smoke from neighbors’ chimneys.
The soil is allowed to “rest” for the next growing season.
Apple Cider!
Fallen leaves nourish the soil.
Pumpkin pie!

The Power of an R.A.K.

No, an R.A.K. is not a rifle. In fact, it is not a even a weapon—not a physical weapon, anyway. I experienced the power of an R.A.K. this past week during a routine part of my day. I believe the combination of many of them would have an awesome impact on our world.

Let me show you what I mean . . . .

I was driving to my office on a Monday morning and just happened to have my radio tuned to a station in Clarksville, TN. It is normal for the hosts to run a trivia contest at about that time of morning. On that particular morning, the contest was between a man and a woman. I cannot remember the man’s name, but I will call him “Roger.” The woman’s name was Melissa. Melissa just happened to mention during the segment that she had a two-week-old baby.

The contest began with, of all things, a question about the average weight of a newborn baby. Of course, Melissa answered that question well and received several points because of it. Roger laughingly commented on how that question “just happened to come up.” The next question was given and it was about the average cost of a fast food meal. Roger was more attuned to this type of question and quickly suggested “$5.00.” That was the number one answer and pushed Roger well ahead of Melissa.

Then Roger did a completely unexpected thing. He passed and told the hosts that he was going to do something probably no one else had ever done: He was going to forfeit the game to Melissa because he thought she, as a new mother, could use the prize (a free massage from a local spa). The hosts (a man and a woman), were stunned. They went on and on about how nice Roger was and about how his kind act was such a good thing. They decided, on the spur of the moment, to give “Roger” a gift certificate to a local restaurant. A positive atmosphere prevailed on the set following the contest. That act of kindness stayed with me all day—and I was seventy miles away.

You have probably guessed the meaning of R.A.K. by now: a “random act of kindness.” You probably also heard that terminology a few years ago when people were trying to counter the random acts of violence (road rage, for example) in our world. I think, however, it is time to begin weaving “R.A.K.’s” into the fabric of our lives. Those acts will enrich our lives as well as the lives of others around us. “Whoever pursues righteousness and kindness will find life, righteousness, and honor” (Proverbs 21:21, ESV).

Is It Possible to Live Consistently?

A man known for his conservative stance is seen to be guilty of the very acts which he has publicly condemned. It has happened at least three times in the last few months (a preacher and two congressmen) and I am not so naïve as to think it won’t happen again. What’s more is that the instances were not one-time lapses of judgment, but cases of men who had patterns of behavior that were direct contradictions of the men’s public professions.

Unfortunately, it appears that the American public is about to become extremely cynical (actually, they already are) and assume that most conservative thinkers and religious people are hypocrites. While you may rightly say such an assumption is unfair, do not be surprised to see this trend continue. Some praise those who blatantly live in sin for not being hypocritical. While we may “appreciate” the consistency of someone who does not pretend to be something they are not, we should never admire a sinner for sinning.

There is another problem as well. You and I see ourselves and know that there are areas in our lives in which we struggle. We may thus feel reluctant to speak out about sin, fearful that someone might bring our shortcomings to light—even if those shortcomings are not patterns of willful behavior. We ask ourselves, “How can I live in such a way as to be consistent with my profession of faith in God?” Here are some answers:

1. Humble yourself before God and pray that you will be kept from a spirit of pride (James 4:10). Remember that pride precedes destruction (Proverbs 16:18).

2. Beware of saying things like “I would never…” or “No one in my family would ever…” Peter told Jesus that he would never deny him (Matthew 26:35), yet just a few hours later, he did. None of us know what we might do in a moment of weakness. We would like to think we would not give in to temptation, but we cannot say for sure that we would not. Our best course of action would be to avoid situations that we know would exploit our weaknesses and to get out of them as quickly as possible if we inadvertently stumble into them.

3. If you correct someone, do so in a spirit of humility (Galatians 6:1,2) letting them know that you are not “above” them, but one who is trying to help them. In condemnation of behavior, let the Bible speak and let your behavior reflect the Bible (2 Peter 3:11, 12). “Hate the sin, love the sinner.”

4. Remember that consistent living is not perfection, but a pattern of godliness. We can live faithfully (Revelation 2:10) before God.

Trying Again

I am sorry that I have not kept up with my blog-posts. I let my fall schedule get me away from it. So, I am going to try and make up some ground in the next couple of days. I will be adding bulletin articles and a couple of person posts, hopefully.

Wednesday, August 22, 2007

Is the Golden Rule Your Chosen Rule?

“In everything, therefore, treat people the same way you want them to treat you . . .” (Matthew 7:12, NASBU).
All of us have a philosophy by which we live. We may not even be aware of it. However, if we analyze our behavior, we will soon see a way of thinking inherent in our treatment of others.
There are three general rules by which people live. I am not the first to relate them. In fact, they have been delineated by others—and those others have probably done a better job. As we compare them, realize that the names of the philosophies are manmade (yes, even the “Golden Rule), but this in no way takes away from the fact that they are biblical portrayals of human attitudes and behavior.
The “Golden Rule” — “Do unto others as you would have them do to you.” Jesus, of course, uttered these words and lived them. This rule, if followed, would rid the world of much anguish and strife. Wars, divorces, etc., would decrease proportionately as people put this rule into practice. It is the best rule by which to live, but the one most difficult to follow. Each of us must make a conscious choice to make this our guiding principle in interpersonal relations. The benefits in peace of mind alone are worth the effort.
The “Silver Rule” — “Do not unto others that which you do not want done to you.” While this philosophy is good to a certain point, it is more of a passive quality of personality than the first. It also carries the idea of doing good to those who have done good to you first. Jesus pointed out that this was already being practiced by the religious people of the day (Matthew 5:46). Christian behavior is grounded in unconditional love—love that acts in spite of the recipient’s attitude rather than as a result of it (Romans 13:8).
The “Iron Rule” — “Do unto others before they do unto you.” This has also been paraphrased as “might makes right.” This philosophy is, in essence, the worldly spirit of power and aggression. It will take the practitioner to the depths of degradation of himself and others. Good will NOT come forth from it. Just as the practice of the “Golden Rule” would result in a decrease of wars and divorces, etc., this rule is the cause of these things. Pain and heartache will always be its fruit, but people continue to follow it.
A better world begins with me—and a better me begins with a conscious choice to practice the “Golden Rule” in all my relationships.


 

Passion

Jim Cramer is the host of CNBC’s “Mad Money.” By just seeing the name of the program and watching a show or two, you will get the idea that he is “a little over the top.” In other words, he says what he thinks and is passionate about it. Well, a couple of weeks ago, Jim Cramer went a little too far, even for him. On a Friday, when the stock market was plunging, he called for a cut in the interest rates by the Federal Reserve. During his plea for a cut, he had what most news services described as a “meltdown”—He yelled, screamed, ranted and raved about why the chairman of the Reserve should cut the rate. It was, even for those who had seen Cramer before, bizarre. Later, he was giving interviews and trying to explain himself because some people thought he had lost his mind. In his explanations, he said that his outrageous rant was one born of passion and concern for the millions of people who would lose their homes because of the market troubles.
Now, I am not going to defend Jim Cramer’s outburst. For one thing, it may have even been staged (after all, he is a TV host). For another, he really did, in my opinion, go too far. However, I will comment on his confessed concern for people who were going to suffer foreclosure after taking risky loans—I hope that people who trade in stock care about the “little people” they affect with their decisions. Furthermore, I think the world would be a better place if everyone would be more thoughtful about people than about money or things.
A similar incident occurred in the life of Paul: “And as he was saying these things in his defense, Festus said with a loud voice, “Paul, you are out of your mind; your great learning is driving you out of your mind.” (Acts 26:24). I have no way of knowing to what extent Paul expressed his zeal in that situation, except for the words of Festus. But, in some way, he apparently became very passionate in order to persuade his listeners. In that same sermon, Paul appealed to Agrippa II that he (Agrippa) might “become such as I am—except for these chains.”
As we think about life and about the thinks we get upset about, maybe we ought to think a little more about zeal and passion for the really important things in life. What if we channeled that passion in constructive ways? We could put more effort and concern into our family relationships and friendships. And, we could certainly put more zeal in our efforts to reach the lost.
“I am not out of my mind, most excellent Festus, but I am speaking true and rational words” (Acts 26:25).

What Are You Reading?

It is interesting to walk in stores (and not just bookstores) and see displays for summer reading. People like to take a book to the beach or somewhere else while on vacation. The New York Times and other publications promote their “bestseller lists” and these also encourage reading. I believe a Christian can improve himself/herself by reading regularly. Though all one’s reading does not have to be religious material, the following religious items could be well-incorporated into one’s regular reading program.
The Bible—It is certainly a good thing to cultivate the habit of daily Bible reading and regular Bible Study. Find a trustworthy translation in a format that is conducive to your personality and habits. Then start reading and stay with it. You will reap many benefits.
Biographies—You might be surprised at the number of biographies that have been written about Christians. Though many of them are about preachers, there are numerous ones about “regular” people. I know of one company among our brethren that has produced many biographies and autobiographies of missionaries. These books can excite you with tales of real adventure and poignant stories of conversion.
Sermons—Many of us have admired at least one famous preacher in our lifetime (B.B. Baxter, Guy N. Woods, Hugo McCord, Wendell Winkler, to name a few). Maybe that man is dead now and we miss being influenced by his sermons. Thanks to sermon books, we can continue to drink from the wells of knowledge in the minds of godly men.
Doctrinal books—There are times when one needs to firmly grasp biblical teaching on a certain topic. Books written on the subject can go a long way in establishing your belief and practice. These should not be a substitute, however, for one’s own systematic study of the Bible.
Devotional books—Sometimes we want to read books that make us feel closer to God by imparting stories, poetry, etc. that connect with us emotionally. While I do not believe that this type of material should be our only reading source, I think it has a definite place in the life of a Christian. After all, God made room for such literature in the Bible itself: the book of Psalms. One word of caution: Be sure that you are firmly grounded in your faith and that the author is trustworthy. Many Christians have been led astray by the clever “heart-appeal” of false teachers.

Thursday, July 05, 2007

Praying At The Computer—Not a Bad Idea!

Recently a Christian man was talking to me and thanking me for keeping the congregation updated on events that affect our members (sickness, death, etc.) The main way we do this is by email. In the midst of his description of checking his email, he said something that got my attention. I don’t remember the exact wording, but it was something to the effect of, “Sometimes I just find myself praying right there at the computer.” I appreciated his words then, but as I thought more about his words, my appreciation for him, and his words, grew.

Computers are such wonderful inventions and help us immensely in the task of communication. They do, of course have their limitations, and there is potential for abuse of them. But just think of the possibilities if we did start to pray in front of our computers—

You could pray as you receive email. Who is sending email to you? Do you belong to discussion groups or chat groups that encourage spiritually unhealthy attitudes or actions? Do you correspond with someone who drags you down spiritually? Are your registered to receive email alerts for weather and other emergencies—and does this cause you to be worried and anxious? Do you receive emails about sickness and concerns within a congregation? —Maybe you should pray about it.

You could pray as you send email. Does the joke you are sending along contain filthy language or thoughts? Is that picture really something you should forward? Have you checked the veracity of the information you are passing on to someone else? Is your manner and language toward the person you are addressing consistent with Christian principles? Don’t punch send too fast— Maybe you should pray about it.

You could pray as you “blog.” The web-log, or “blog” for short, has become the diary and journal of our generation. The difference is that now our thoughts and writings are “out there” for the world to see. When you post, do you say things you wouldn’t normally say in public? Potentially, your thoughts could be seen by anyone. Maybe you should pray about it.

You could pray as you navigate the Internet. There is no doubt about the usefulness and convenience of a computer. But spiritual danger is literally a mouse-click away. The words of Jesus’ model prayer—“lead us not into temptation” might be most appropriate as you log on—Maybe you should pray about it. —Lance Cordle

Friday, June 22, 2007

The Power of a Friend

One of the truly great blessing of life is friendship. God made us to be social creatures, and within each one of us he has put an appreciation of and a need for friendship. When chosen wisely, friends can be blessings to us and remain with us for years—some through our lives. When poorly chosen, they can bring us to disaster.
Let each of us examine ourselves to determine the type of friend we are. Next, let us examine our friends, to see their effect on us. Finally, let us teach our children the power of friendship and help them to make wise choices in their own friendships.
A friend can . . .
Remain constant in his/her devotion to you—in good and bad times (Proverbs 17:17).
Betray you (Matthew 26:49, 50).
Hurt you while helping you (Proverbs 27:6).
Appear to help you while hurting you (1 Corinthians 15:33).
Multiply your joy by sharing it with you (Romans 12:15).
Divide your sorrow while sharing it with you (Romans 12:15).
Provide counsel when needed (Proverbs 27:9).
Risk his/her life for you (Romans 16:3,4).
Be trusted (Philippians 2:20-22).
Be with you when everyone else has left you (2 Timothy 4: 11)..
Be closer than a family member (Proverbs 18:24).
Bring you to Jesus ( John 1: 45, 46).
Supply needs different from, and beyond romantic love (2 Samuel 1:26).
Help you as you journey toward heaven (Romans 16:1,2).
Hinder you as you try to live for Jesus (2 Timothy 4:10).

Wednesday, June 06, 2007

Today is D-Day

Today is June 6, 2007--63 years since the invasion of Normandy in 1944. In my previous post, I compared the preparations of the of D-Day with preparations needed for Judgment Day. In this post, I just simply want to say thanks to the men, living and dead, who gave themselves and of themselves so that significant battle would be won and the tide would be turned in World War II.

If you have never studied the subject, I challenge you to read about Operation "OVERLORD." A Good place to start is Stephen Ambrose's D-Day, June 6, 1944. When you have completed that, read The Bedford Boys. I don't remember the author's name, but that book concerns Bedford, Virginia and the 19 young men from there who died on D-Day. They comprised the largest per capita loss of any US town in that battle. It is for that reason the National D-Day memmorial is located in Bedford.

My family visited there not long after the opening of the memorial. It is a touching tribute to those who gave their lives at Normandy. I urge you to make a 30-minute drive off Interstate 81 and see it if you are ever in that area of Virginia.
Finally, rent or pull out a VHS or DVD of "Saving Private Ryan" and watch the opening D-Day sequence. You will be humbled and grateful.

If you value your freedom, thank the Lord--and befriend a vet.

D-Day, H-Hour

“But concerning that day and hour no one knows, not even the angels of heaven, nor the Son, but the Father only” (Matthew 24:36).

It was early June, 1944. The world that then was lay in the grip of the “Axis” powers—Germany, Italy, and Japan. Though the Allied forces were making strides, the tide was not yet turned. Indeed, the future of the free world was very much in doubt.
The supreme commander of Allied forces, General Dwight D. Eisenhower had been planning the invasion for months. The Germans were expecting the assault, but they did not know two key factors: the where and the when. The Germans relied on logic and chose to concentrate their forces and armaments at Calais, France. It was closer to the southern part of England than the eventual insertion point, the coast of Normandy. The date for the invasion was initially set for June 5, 1944, but inclement weather pushed the date back.

With a hope that the weather was clearing, Eisenhower sent forth the troops on June 6, to carry out the operation codenamed “OVERLORD.” The day of the invasion was designated by “D” and the hour, by an “H.” Hence, D-day was the day and H-hour was the hour at which the invasion began, early in the morning. Americans would do well to keep the date of June 6 marked on their calendars and in their minds, for it was, arguably, the day that marked the turning point of the war, thus leading to our continued freedom.

What strikes me now, however, is the German response to an event they knew was coming. Though they were prepared to some extent to defend the shores of Normandy, they first guessed that the invasion would take place at Calais. With inadequate forces at Normandy they were overrun and the essential breach was opened for the Allies.

Additionally, the Germans were caught off guard in regard to the time of the invasion. Field Marshal Rommel was, in fact, away from the front lines and at home to celebrate his wife’s birthday. Thus, when the invasion occurred, there was inadequate leadership of the defending troops. Both of these factors add up to one thing: lack of preparation.

Though a very significant battle, in a very significant war, “D-Day” was an earthly conflict with earthly consequences. There is coming a day which will have eternal consequences for all of us. No miscalculation or lack of preparation will be excusable. (See 2 Corinthians 5:10; Revelation 20:12ff.) —Lance Cordle

Saturday, May 19, 2007

Milestones (Again)

May 8, 1982 I graduated from Freed-Hardeman College. I was 22 years old, engaged to be married, and had a preaching job in a nice, quiet small town in west Tennesse. It was an exciting day! I recieved no special honrs, just my diploma. That's ok. I didn't earn any special honors. I made good grades, but not great ones.

I took a little time between graduation and my first Sunday to preach. I really don't remember a whole lot about it. I was probably trying to get everything ready to move to Atwood. Somewhere in that time, I think, I picked up a black & white TV set (19-inch) for about $20.00. It lasted us for the next 2 and a half years. I can remember that my nephew visited us and wanted to watch our TV. Now you must remember this little boy had never seen a b&w TV before. He said, "Something's wrong! The color won't work in your TV!

I preached my first sermon at Atwood the last weekend in May. I lived and worked there by myself for about a month. Laura was in Georgia getting ready for the wedding.

I'm not sure if the following incident happened that first month or later, but it was sometime early on. I had preached that morning, and for some reason, that night, I got "wound up" and preached 45 minutes (really too long for me). Anyway, a lady who has since become a very dear friend, walked out, shook my hand, and with a deadpan (and sarcastic) expression said, "I enjoyed both those sermons, and I'm not counting the one this morning!

I enjoyed my years at Atwood. We met people who have stayed friends since that time. When we go back, they are always glad to see us. It was a good learning experience. I had time to go into my office and do some good foundational study for sermons and for classes. They helped get my master's degree and encouraged us in so many ways.

Atwood was the place where my wife and I began our life together and it was the place where my son began his life. We will forever be grateful to God for the church of Christ in Atwood, TN.

Instant vs. Delayed (or Denied) Gratification

“Give me what I want, and I want it right now,” seems to be a message that is prevalent in our world today. In years past it was normal for children to go through the stage of selfishness. It was just as normal for parents to recognize selfishness and help the child through that by taking their focus off their wants and wishes and directing them toward more responsible choices. Unfortunately, the desire for instant gratification is present in many adults.
However, taking one’s focus off their own wants and needs serves at least three purposes: 1) It helps them see the value of patience and hard work. 2) It helps them realize their responsibility to other people. 3) It helps them see that there are things they should not have—ever.
Patience and hard work have long been recognized as virtues. Employers look upon these characteristics as desirables one for current and prospective employees. But when people are not taught these virtues, goals are pursued without them. T he results will be decreased quality and productivity.
Beyond the damage to one’s own productivity and worth, is the impact that selfishness has on society. Whether we realize it or not, we depend heavily on others and they in turn, depend upon us. Going into debts which we know we cannot pay will not only hurt us, but our community as well.
Finally, there is the matter of wanting things (more specifically, relationships) we should (morally) not have. It might be reasoned, “If I can have the things I want, why can I not have the relationships I want.” Should it surprise us then, that in a materialistic society, fornication and adultery are rampant? Recent societal consequences of such behavior have been minimal at best. The need for companionship can be supplied through seeking someone who is eligible to be in a lawful relationship with us.
Often when we read of Samson, we focus upon his exploits as a strong man—He killed a lion with his bare hands, moved the gates of a city to a hill, etc. We neglect however, a very important statement, made by him, which reflects an attitude of selfishness. He saw a woman he should not have considered as “wife material.” Instead of dealing with his desires, and bring them into line with what was best for him and the people around him, he told his father, “Get her for me, for she looks good to me” (Judges 14:3). Samson’s father followed his wishes, and Samson, and those around him, suffered the consequences. Getting what we want when we want it may seem good, but it is not always best.

Wednesday, May 09, 2007

That Kind of Commitment

I think most of us have heard the fable about the chicken and the pig. It seems that both of them heard the news of a “ham & egg” breakfast. The chicken was more than willing to participate and encouraged the pig to do so. The pig answered, however, “That’s easy for you, because for you, it will just be a matter of a contribution, but for me, it will take total commitment!”
Lots of people shy away from activities or relationships because, they say, they cannot make that kind of commitment. I appreciate their honesty, because that is a more accurate statement than one made by people who say they are afraid of commitment. You see, everyone is committed to, and willing to commit to something.
Take, for example, a man who says about marriage, “I am afraid of commitment,” and then commits himself to a lifestyle of dating women with the expectation of enjoying sex without marriage. He has no intention of making the commitment of marriage, but he is very committed to fulfilling his own need for pleasure, in the way he sees fit. His energies that could be exerted toward self-discipline and devotion to a wife and family are instead spent on himself. He is not afraid of commitment; he just is not willing to make the proper kind of commitment.
Now, think about spiritual commitment. A man may say, “I am afraid I can’t live up to that standard,” and then decide to take up the sport of golf. He commits himself to pursuing the score of par. He buys good equipment, invests in comfortable shoes, pays the greens’ fees or country club dues, and he devotes time—day after day, week after week. The man who will not commit to God because he is “afraid he can’t live up to that standard,” eventually shoots par, and sets his sights for better scores. The problem was not that he could not make a strong commitment. It was that he was not willing to make it for a spiritual purpose.
So, it really comes down to a person’s values. The things that they value most in life will take personal commitment. They will think about those things, devote time and money to them—in short, they will devote their lives to those things they value most. Jesus put it this way: “...for where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.”
It is that kind of commitment that Jesus had, and wants. It is that kind of commitment that will cause us to love our wife or husband exclusively, and it is that kind of commitment that will keep us faithful unto death (Revelation 2:10).

What Do You Really Believe?

1. Do you believe God created the world, and is now managing it by the laws of nature and by providence?
2. Do you believe that you have personal value and significance simply because God made you?
3. Do you believe that all people around you, regardless of color, race, or creed, have personal value and Gods wants them to be saved?
4. Do you believe that God will hold you accountable for how you have spent your life?
5. Do you believe that Jesus was more than a man—that he was and is the son of God?
6. Do you believe that God transmitted his message through men, and that they wrote down the words he wanted them to use, and in so doing, gave us the Bible?
7. Do you believe that there are such things to be classified as good, and other things to be classified as evil, and that the two categories are mutually exclusive?
8. Do you believe that there is a definite way to follow God, and that by following that way, you will be saved?
9. Do you believe that there is a group of people, made up of those who have professed their belief in Christ and obeyed him in faith, who are the people for God’s own possession?
10. Do you believe there really is an eternal destination for the righteous, and another one for the unrighteous? Why or Why Not?
Why did you answer the questions the way you did? Now, I want you to read the passages below (if you are not already familiar with them) and place the letter of the group of passages beside the question it best fits. Only one letter per question, please.
A. John 14:6; 2 Corinthians 5:7 F. Acts 10:34, 35; 1 Timothy 2:3,4
B. John 1:1-3; Hebrews 1:1-3 G. 2 Timothy 3:16,17; 2 Peter 1:19-21
C. John 20:30,31; 2 Corinthians 5:10 H. Matthew 25:46; John 5:28, 29
D. Genesis 1:26, 27; Acts 17:28, 29 I. Titus 2:14; 1 Peter 2:9
E. Genesis 1:1; Acts 17:24,25 J. Romans 12:9; 1 Thessalonians 5:21

So, now tell me—what do you really believe, and why?

Friday, April 13, 2007

"Paternity"

I guess Larry Birkhead is happy. This past Tuesday the daughter of Anna Nicole Smith, was determined to be his child. He and several others had claimed paternity in this case. It is interesting, that after James Brown died in late December of last year, many people came forward claiming to be his children.

Now, does it not bother us to see such irresponsible behavior treated so lightly? You might say, "Well they are trying to determine the paternity." Do you know why they are trying to determine paternity? Because, both Anna Nicole Smith and James Brown left behind large estates. Even when Anna Nicole was alive, Birkhead was claiming paternity, presumably, because of money.

But my point really is that baby-making belongs in marriage. We seem to have done a better job of relaying the message that single parenthood is not responsible behavior in the teen years. (I believe statistics show that there has been a decline in teen pregnancies.) Of course, adults are not being so responsible, births to single mothers in their 20's and above are on the rise. Society is saying, "Don't have a child when you are under 20 and have no money, but when you get to be an 'adult' you can do it whether you can support that child or not."

The problem is that society refuses to place the moral demand of responsibility upon people. It used to be that family units were similar in their demands of children. Most children would be raised to respect marriage and the responsibility associated with raising children. Now, celebrities publicly flaunt their sexuality and irresponsibility. The result has been a "trickle-down" effect--"If they can live irresponsibly, why can't I?"

Every person must ask themselves, "To whom am I responsible?" The answer should be "God, and my fellow citizens." Only when individuals make the personal choice to conduct themselves responsibly before God and society will we begin to stem the tide of indecent conduct that is hurting us all.

I truly feel sorry for the little girl, Dannielynn. She may grow up with truckloads of money, but the heritage left her biological parents is not very pretty.

Thursday, April 12, 2007

"I Hear You, And I Care"

Six words. Sometimes, they are all we need to hear. They can be uttered verbally or they can be communicated by a hug, a note, a pat on the back, or by an action taken to alleviate the stress or burden. In fact, it is my opinion that our need of this message in its verbal and nonverbal forms may be a 50/50 split—sometimes we need to hear it and sometimes we just need to experience it without the words being said. The message is: “I hear you, and I care.”

Life can be very stressful and there are times we all come to a point where we feel overwhelmed. It is during those times that we need someone to come and help us with the overflow. The interesting thing is that we give off signals and others pick them up. Most of those who know us well, know when we are happy, sad, annoyed, frustrated, angry, etc. They even adjust their approaches to us as they interpret the signals we send out. It should not be too difficult to go a step further and, when we get the message of distress, send back, in some manner, “I hear you, and I care.”

There are few things in life more frustrating than going to someone you believe can help and then being turned away. It may be a problem at work…It may be a relationship problem...It may be a dread of the unknown...It may just a “down” time of our life. Whatever it is, if we send a friend a signal and they refuse to help us, we can become even more discouraged.

Imagine the thoughts of the woman who approached Jesus in the incident recorded in Mark 5:25-34. She, according to Mark, “had endured much at the hands of many physicians and had spent all she had and was not helped at all, but rather had grown worse…” This woman needed to hear the message, “I hear you, and I care.” Even though she was healed when she touched his robe, Jesus took the time to stop and talk to her—in the midst of his own stressful moment. (Jairus’ daughter was dying and he was on his way to Jairus’ house.) His compassion for the woman is evident even above the miraculous healing that took place on that day.

Chances are, there is someone you know right now who is sending out signals that tell you he or she is needing to hear, “I hear you and I care.” Please take the time to convey the message and then follow up. You may not be able to help in a significant way, but “just listening” may be the thing most needed. It may make a world of difference.

“A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity” (Proverbs 17:17).

Thursday, March 29, 2007

What Difference Does It Make, Really?

If you are obstructed on your path to marry someone who says, “I want to marry a Christian”—and you are baptized merely to remove that obstacle, what difference does it make, really?

If you are present at worship services, yet you leave each one only to live as the world dictates, what difference does it make, really?

If you profess to believe that the Bible teaches that a Christian should sing without the accompaniment of instruments worship, yet when in attendance, you refuse to sing (even though you are able to), what difference does it make, really?

If, as a parent, you instruct your children, to read the Bible and honor the Lord in their lives, but you make no effort to do the same, what difference does it make, really?

If you profess to be a Christian, and thus to “seek first the kingdom of God,” yet most times, when the kingdom and the world battle for priority in your life, the activities of the world take precedence over those of the kingdom, what difference does it make, really?

If you believe that the gospel is the “good news” and the power of God to salvation, yet you make no effort whatsoever to lead even your loved ones to Christ, what difference does it make really?

If you are a leader in the Lord’s church and your attitude and actions contradict the very Bible passages you are supposed to fulfill, what difference does it make, really?

If you profess to be a Christian and, before God and witnesses, promise to stay with another person for the rest of your life—and your marriage ends because of you and your sinfulness, what difference does it make, really?

If you are a Bible class teacher and fail to provide the proper example in preparation and responsibility, what difference does it make, really?

If you profess to believe in heaven and say that you want to go there when you die, yet you make no provision for spiritual things while on earth, what difference does it make, really?

Are you a Christian?
What difference has it made, really?

Postscript: Shortly after writing the above article, I came across this quote by Lonnie Jones: "A difference that makes no difference is no difference." Well said.

Friday, March 16, 2007

Milestones

I'm hitting that time in my life where I am passing significant time markers. The first weekend in March I celebrated eighteen years of life and local church work in Calvert City. In so many ways, that day eighteen years ago remains fresh in my mind. I remember pulling up to the house in the rental truck and several people's faces as we began to unload.

Henry and Roberta were there: Henry to do all the good things Henry could do: back the truck into that narrow driveway for me, direct the unloading, and just be the excellent handyman that he was. Roberta to be so nice and welcoming, to help with the unloading, and cleaning, and to supervise Henry. :) I sure do miss them both.

Other faces come to mind also, but I am afraid to name other names because I may leave someone out. However, I will not forget the acts of kindness that were done on that day and many days since. This congregation took a preacher, his wife, and two and a half-year-old son and made us their own. We are so thankful to have been blessed, and continue to be blessed, to be a part of this congregation.

"The Day the Music Died"

For the generation just ahead of me, Don McLean spoke for them he wrote of the tragic death of Buddy Holly, Richie Valens, and J.P. Richardson, aka, "The Big Bopper." Meclean called it "The Day the Music Died." I think of that phrase as I ponder the recent death of one of the musicians of my genration.

I well remember waking up different days with the music and lyrics of different songs playing over and over in my mind throughout the day. (I think there's a technical term for that--and no, it is not insanity!) One day, I heard a new group, a group with a sound like no other band. They were very "heavy on guitar" and had a lead singer, Brad Delp, who could reach notes most of us only dream of hitting. That band was "Boston" and they produced hit after hit for several years. With songs like "More Than a Feeling" and "Peace of Mind," they provided the backdrop for my high school and college years. I didn't even have to play the music myself--I can still remember the dorm walls "rattling" as the guys next door, in Brigance 102, played Boston too loudly.

A few years ago, when CD's were becoming more popular and affordable, I said "I wish Boston would bring out their 'Greatest Hits' on CD"--and they did. It has provided much joy for me during long trips, as I listen and reminisce while driving. With the coming of MP3 players, even though mine is a "cheapie," I have Boston's "Greatest Hits" on there.

All of this brings me to the sad point of my post: Friday, March 9, 2007, Brad Delp, former lead singer for Boston, was found dead. Apparently he had committed suicide. How very tragic--he was only 55 years old. From all accounts, Delp was one of the nicest guys in the music industry. It is said that he would stay for hours and hours and sign autographs. He was another type of rarity in that industry as well: a "teetotaler"--he did not drink alcohol.

When I think of the talent and potential of such a person as Brad Delp, I can't help but be saddened by the way his life ended. He apparently died of carbon monoxide poisoning--accomplished by burning charcoals in a sealed-up bathroom. This, of course suggests much forethought. The act of suicide itself also suggests hopelessness. It is so sad to know of a person who no longer sees life worth living.

As we contemplate the suicide of someone so famous, let's do some soul-searching. Let's resolve to keep hope in our life. The best to do that of course is to place our hope in Jesus Christ (John 14:6; Acts 2:38; Galatians 3:27; Revelation 2:10). Then we need to look around us and do our best to encourage those we know: family and friends. If you have influence in a person's life and see them drifting downward, do your best to lift them up. If you should doubt the need for such attention to others, let me leave you with the message of the note found with Brad Delp's body: "Mr. Brad Delp: I am a lonely soul."
(My source for the information surrounding Delp's death was Wikipedia.com)